THE ANTI-HATING CAMPAIGN

Doctor Love by Banksy

As much as we celebrate love and tolerance, we must not fall into delusion of believing tolerance is the answer to everything. We cannot and we mustn't tolerate everything. What we must teach is the constructive criticism. We must learn first that we may not be always right, even if something feels right to us. We must learn that it's OK not to be right all the time and learn we don’t have to agree on everything, or to understand everything. We must learn to distinguish the attack on our own belief system and the existence of a different belief system. We must accept we have limits, as much as others do. 

The tolerance can easily become a passive aggressively imposed system where individuals no more have a right to express their natural discomfort in order to preserve false tolerant system. To be clearer, there is a huge anti haters’ campaign that’s been going on for some time. And it has something to do with all this aggressive falsely tolerant culture. It is obvious in each and every lifestyle promoted by the media. You shouldn’t feel angry, you shouldn’t feel unhappy, you shouldn’t disagree with what ‘’everyone’’ says is right. If you do, you need psychotherapy. Love and peace is the only thing you should feel, they say. And that sounds beautiful, but it is one very dangerous pretense. 

Here is why:

1. It prohibits every constructive criticism. We know constructive criticism is a way to improve things, and if you force people to tolerate and spread love endlessly, the society becomes zombie land.

2. It is natural to feel hate and sadness as much as it is natural to feel excitement, happiness and love. Every emotion has its source and context, and we should concentrate on handling all these different emotions and understanding them instead of denying we are human beings.

3. To dislike something is not an insult. People have different tastes in food too, and no one gets offended by that. Well, some might… Just because I may not be a cake lover, I am not offending anyone who is, and I am aloud to express my indifference toward cakes or how I think there might be too many cake shows on TV. That is not aggression, it is a simple impression that came from somewhere and has grown in me. An insult would be if I called the cake makers assholes.

4. We defend love and peace when things go our own way. As soon as we are required to adjust our ways and make a certain sacrifice, the rules change. It is something as ‘’I love you and respect you and you’re a loving person as long as you obey my views. ’’ Instead of understanding what might be going on, we all like to yell we’re attacked, and the role of the attacker and the victim easily switches from one side to the other thanks to skilful and dangerous use of words such as tolerance, and intolerance. The question is who should adjust, how, when, where and why.

5.  The anti haters campaign has reached its climax, people have become afraid to show different views, thoughts, discomfort. It is an effective collective brainwashing. Impose something, and define an opposition as an aggression. Convince the majority they are minority by constantly repeating phrases and spreading certain trends. Call them haters if they don’t accept everything you impose.

So what would tolerance be? It is trying to understand others before judging. It is the awareness that there is always something to learn. It is questioning. It is protecting your own world without wanting to belittle and destroy others. It is empathy. But it has to go both ways, both sides. And sometimes, some things, we cannot tolerate. Sometimes we are the victim of tolerance. Tolerate a man pissing on your floor and your house will stink. There are always limits everywhere, only the universe itself has none.

No wonder they have recently made a social application based on the hating taste. People are hungry for anything which proves to be more honest and real than fake love and fake tolerance.

That is why we’ll make this post more fun and name some little things we hate. Feel free to join us in our little hating campaign and hope you’ll feel more at peace with yourself this way!

1. People walking completely carelessly in the middle of road as they own them. Seriously, take care of yourself cause you might get hit by a car and the poor driver will have his life ruined forever.

2. Dog owners who don't clean after their pets in public places. Would you leave it like that in your own home?

3. Obsession with taking photos of food. We love that you’re excited you’re gonna eat that, but unless you’re planning to give us some taste, what’s the message?

4. Measuring quietly someone’s outfit from necklace to shoelace. I have not stolen a single thing I wear, I swear. Also, commenting on body shape. Yes, we do look different, imagine that.

5. Borrowing stuff without returning them. Thanks for the trust issues I have.

6. The new trend of calling women goddesses. No, we are not goddesses. We are people. We don’t have to be goddesses, it is too damn hard, actually it is impossible. And I don’t want to be one. Feminism was never about being a Cleopatra, it is about being respected, not worshiped.

7. Fuckboys calling women sluts.

8. Slackers calling themselves dreamers and intellectuals.

9. Copy cats. Always lurking, watching, examining. From the shadow. And then making quotes about their impressive personality.

10. Overly hyped people, pretending to be excited about everything. You’re not excited about Joe’s Saturday party? He got himself a DJ and a monkey dressed in swimsuit! You’re not? What’s wrong with you???

11. Snap chat animal features. What did I miss? I must have slept for a decade.

12. Recent trend of girls being into boxing and posing with their clean, new gloves. Tough and sexy, I get it.

13. Peter Pan syndrome. Being older than 20 and making a birthday party like you’re 10. Thousand photos of Barbie cake, candles, birthday caps, birthday blowers and hysterical boring smiles. If there was any music in the background it was probably ‘’Mary had a little lamb.’’It's scary. Adult jokes wont help, they make it even worse.

14. Trying too hard to prove you’re special through music. Again, where the hell did you find that artsy shitty clip on Youtube, take it easy man, the music revolution happened long time ago. Unless you’re in high school.

15. Loving God while disrespecting, underestimating and lowering all the people. Man I can hate people too, but seriously?  Also, hating and mocking religious people doesn’t make you a scientist. Ask Einstein and Tesla.

16. Tattooing just because you had to. Let's do all three in a row!

17. Guys who don’t take care of their appearance and want Victoria Secret model for a girlfriend.

18. Guys who want to get into your panties through friendship.

19. Girls who sabotage girls in friendship and love.

20. People who define themselves as true humanitarians but are first to cheat and lie.

21. The Instagram beauty concept. Mascarade make-up for cloning girls. Big ass trend. Posing all day for a spontaneous photo.

22. Street style cloning fashion trends ‘’I woke up like this’’ and ‘’I’m a rock n roll star’’ planned carefully by stylists in the service of marketing certain fashion trends.

23. ‘’Cinderella’’ make-up that looks perfect for half an hour and like a horror story after that.

24. Eavesdroppers. Get a life.

25. ‘’I’m a world traveler’’ trend. Everyone has become a cultural anthropologist these days thanks to social media networking, cheap cameras and cheap flights. 10 years ago half of them wouldn’t sit in a train to the closest town.

26. Big beards. Santa Claus trauma or something, I don’t know. But keep them clean at least.

27. Guys with greasy long hair. Save the planet and cut it off.

28. Garbage collectors. ‘’Don’t throw that chocolate paper, it is a special memory when me and my friend wanted to eat some chocolate.’’

29. Interior design trend: ‘’I love to watch expensive interior decorations; I wish I had money for that. Therefore, I have a taste and I should be an interior designer.’’

30. Blogs everywhere, promoting everyone and everything. :)

I time every journey to bump into you, accidentally
I charm you and tell you of the boys I hate
All the girls I hate
All the words I hate
All the clothes I hate
How I'll never be anything I hate
You smile, mention something that you like
How you'd have a happy life if you did the things you like

(The dark of the matinee, Franz Ferdinand).

Hope we made you smile, we wish you many reasons to love and tolerate your beautiful life and keep it that way!

A.B.

Love and a little bit of hate, ITI <3

BACK TO THE SKETCHES

"I dream of painting and then I paint my dream." 

- Vincent Van Gogh

Architecture has become a mass medium. With the one click of the mouse it is available to everyone, everywhere. Sometimes this is a good thing, but sometimes we lose the true sense of architecture in this overabundance of media information. Invitation to Inspiration believes that there is only one strategy possible against all of this. We have to return to the analog world of concrete reflections. What we need are architectural concepts, sketches where the idea od good architecure is born. 

sketches byRenzo Piano

Eco-quartiere “Le Albere” by Renzo Piano

L' Auditorium di Roma by Renzo Piano

sketches by Alejandro Aravena

sketches by Massimiliano Fuksas

Love, ITI <3 

WHAT ABOUT LOVE

This specific date has made us think of love and how magical it can appear not just in movies, but also in real life. Whether that's good or bad...Anyway, let's keep it positive. This is our humble list of movies which are truly heartwarming and unspoiled by the irony or cynicism of everyday lives. Here we go...

1. Titanic

Yes. Historic tragedy which is presented in the movie through a love story. The chances that there is someone who didn't watch this movie are equal to chances that both of them could have survived together. I guess the romance is related to the fact that even if they didn't, their love did survive. Makes one question if such romance could survive the survival?!

Rose: I know what you must be thinking. "Poor little rich girl, what does she know about misery?

Jack: No, no, that's not what I was thinking. What I was thinking was, what could've happened to this girl to make her think she had no way out?

2. Notebook

Great job done here in interpreting love thanks to talented Ryan and Rachel. The realness of their chemistry can be felt in front of the screen, and that's what gives this movie such emotion. Considered cheesy by some, we will not agree. Again, the fight between social status and love where love truly wins - not just for a brief moment, but until the very last end. 

Noah: I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who's ever lived: I've loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.

3. Bodyguard

The irreplaceable and beautiful Whitney Houston and charming Kevin Costner in one of the best interactions we have ever seen. Again, so real and full of emotions that it is hard to believe this was just a movie.

Rachel: Will you grab that jacket for me? The red one, please?

Frank: I'm here to keep you alive, not help you shop.

4. Pretty woman

We love Julia Roberts in romantic comedies, and this one is obviously a classic. No wonder she and Richard continued to work together since their energy is so compatible on the screen. This was never about a prostitute and some rich spoiled guy. This is actually about any girl who struggles to follow the requirements of the hypocritical materialistic world while being completely exploited by it. Suddenly she meets a guy, totally adjusted to this world and in the top of its game, but equally exploited. That's how they recognize each other. At least, that's how we like to think about this movie, and that's why this movie was never obscene to anyone. Not something we could say about ''50 shades of grey'', for example. 

Vivian: People put you down enough, you start to believe it.

Edward Lewis: I think you are a very bright, very special woman.

Vivian: The bad stuff is easier to believe. You ever notice that?

5. Before sunrise 

Masterpiece by Richard Linklater, and beautifully interpreted by Ethan Hawke and Julie Deply. Realistic, intelligent, inspiring and full of real life sensations. Their inner world becomes our own world, and magic happens without creating false illusions of life and love. The sequels are as well worthy to watch, more to say, a must-see. 

Celine: You know, I have this awful paranoid thought that feminism was mostly invented by men so that they could like, fool around a little more. You know, women, free your minds, free your bodies, sleep with me. We're all happy and free as long as I can fuck as much as I want.

6. Dirty Dancing

Another classic, great story, great people and great music. What can you say about Dirty dancing that hasn't been said or felt already. Whoever said this one was cheesy obviously missed the thug life topics such as social and gender prejudices. This movie might be more important today than ever before.

Baby: Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what I saw, I'm scared of what I did, of who I am, and most of all I'm scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I'm with you.

7. Lake house

Wonderful Keanu and Sandra in unconventional love story. Even though it is completely surreal, it makes us forget about impossible and possible and make us believe that there are no such notions. And if you're not a fate believer, this movie offers wonderful lessons of life and love.

Kate: Life is not a book, Alex. And it can be over in a second. I was having lunch with my mother at Daley Plaza and a man was killed right in front of me. He died in my arms. And I thought, "It can't end just like that on Valentine's Day." And I thought about all the people who love him, waiting at home, who will never see him again. And then I thought, "What if there is no one? What if you live your whole life and no one is waiting?''

8. Bridges of Madison county

Two legends equal classic, a breathtaking performance and strong on screen chemistry. Movie based on a book, interpretation which will never cease to shake our hearts.

Francesca: I had thoughts about him I hardly knew what to do with, and he read every one. Whatever I wanted, he gave himself up to, and in that moment everything I knew to be true about myself was gone. I was acting like another woman, yet I was more myself than ever before.

9. Meet Joe Black

It's been a long time since we've watched mr. Pitt here, never as gentle and as loving as in the role of Joe Black. Surreal, pre-Twilight story about life meeting death through love, offering much more than just some romantic fantasy, questioning human love without making it...base. And then there's mr. Hopkins and brilliant Claire Forlani!

William Parrish: Does she know where she's going? Huh? You see, Susan went for that poor son of a bitch whose body you took. And everything else since has been aftermath. You say you love her but you don't know what love is. She loves you, she doesn't know who you are. You make a deal you're breaking it. Bottom line is, Joe, you're swindling her soul, and you're doing it with your eyes wide open.

10 things I hate about you

If you ever feel like this teenage comedy is your guilty pleasure, try feeling less guilty when we tell you it is an adaptation of Shakespeare play ''The taming of the shrew''. And of course, there's Heath Ledger, pre - everything. 

With these 10 things we'll finish our movie list, right here.

Kat Stratford: Romantic? Hemingway? He was an abusive, alcoholic misogynist who squandered half of his life hanging around Picasso trying to nail his leftovers.

Stop whining about your partner or how you don't have a partner or how there is no such partner and enjoy this unspoiled, loving pieces of cinema history. There might never be such stories, or such movies again.  But if you can enjoy them, than your heart is still alive & that's all that matters. 

A.B.

LOVE, ITI xoxo

FINDING THE RIGHT....DRESS

Every little girl knows she is a princess. Wearing a princess dress is one the ways she projects her dreams to the world. She is Cinderella, she is Elsa, and when she grows up, she waits for channeling her inner princess again. At the age of 18, there's her magic night, the prom. And even more after that, there are so many occasions where she  remembers that not only she could be a princess if she wants to, she could also be a queen. At her wedding, again, she dresses and feels like one. We will now glimpse through the magic world of dresses for all these special occasions to celebrate the feminine kingdom.

we do not own this picture 

Fashion trends change through the years, and so does our taste. But as get mature, we get to know better not only our own taste, but also which kind of cuts suit us and which ones are not the best choice. Choosing the right dress silhouette is even harder when there are so many variations (A-line dress, Ball gown,  mermaid style...) Check out the free advises here to find your own perfect fit.

We will now single out some of our own personal faves, so if you're preparing for the Prom or the Big Wedding, check out these lovely styles:

PROM/EVENING AND WEDDING DRESSES

available at http://uk.millybridal.org

What we love about this dress is how it is both gentle and powerful. The cut is wonderful, and waist line is perfect. Also the color game is on the top, the dress is just the right amount of classic and vanguard style. This is the dreamy, classy and sexy type of the dress, all in one. Discreet dress with the right attitude. It accentuates the back and neck line, just perfect for gentle body constitution and sleek hairstyle or updos.

available at http://uk.millybridal.org

This is a true romantic classic. Nude is our personal fave, but other colors can also give it a special vibe, especially black. The dress shapes the body perfectly, as if it is part of it. Again, beautiful accent on the back of the body and the lace just makes everything more magical. Lovely materials, gentle straight fall, truly princess-like style. This dress can pull off any hairstyle – the casual the better. Just as in the pic.

available at http://uk.millybridal.org

Hello mermaid style! This one is breathtaking. The  lace accentuates body contours and feminine shape just as it should, and black color gives it a certain attitude. It is somewhat naked dress, but the classy version, which we prefer. The dress line doesn't get unnoticed – the fall of the dress is majestic just as the game of dress materials. It is still somewhat daring since it follows the body line as the ornament, which makes it perfect for a true queen.

available at http://uk.millybridal.org

This one is from the wedding collection 2017. We stopped right there when we saw it. Rose undertones make it so appealing and yes, there is lace again, because there is nothing like lace. The mermaid style dress that has ends like waterfalls and still doesn't loose the traditional wedding dress vibe, but escapes the predictable rules of a classic wedding dress. This is a wonderful fit for the dream-like wedding we would all like to have.

available at http://uk.millybridal.org

Amazing vintage, almost royal dress, with crystal details. Traditional Ball Gown made for the modern fairy tale. Just the right amount of splendor. This one is really powerful, unique, and yet, clean and simple. Almost as if it's telling us some big story right now. 

available at http://uk.millybridal.org

Unconventional wedding dress, perfect for trendy brides. Two-piece dress doesn't steal the wedding ceremony charm, in fact, it adds more to it. Relaxed wavy hairstyle  as in the pic perfectly fits the dress. Sleek bun might give it a different, less playful look, but just as stylish. It is as if the dress itself radiates happiness.

So these styles were truly inspiring for us, whether we were thinking of a special event coming up soon, or something more further. Anyway, we hope you enjoyed these pieces as much as we have. Thanks Millybridal UK & UK Long Prom Dresses for the inspiration. Feel free to discover your own favorite style & tell us what makes you fly.

A.B.

Love, Invitation to Inspiration